Friday, November 9

Crash!!!

*****UPDATE*****
I mentioned that I've swapped vehicles with my daughter this week so I don't have to drive the 4 wheel drive (the beast) until we find another vehicle. This afternoon I had the joyful job of having to phone her up to say "ummm Rachel I'm in town and someone has just ploughed into the front of your car!!" I had picked up the boys from school and then went to the bank. I was angled parked in the main street in town, strapped the boys in and backed out, then put the car into drive and was ready to move forward when I noticed the car to my right had started to back out and was heading for me. I had nowhere to go - so tooted the horn, he just kept on coming and so I gritted my teeth and waited for the crash!!! He had limited English but his first words were 'You shouldn't have been there, it's your fault!! This was despite the fact he didn't look, and reversed straight into me. I lost my cool and asked him how else was I meant to get out of a parking place! Also I had tooted to warn him. He said he hadn't heard the horn going yet I think most of the shopping area did as I could see people looking. He still kept saying it wasn't his fault. So I told him that he had reversed back without looking. Devin then piped up and asked if I had looked when I backed out! The two boys were looking a bit tearful and worried. I quickly phoned Peter and he confirmed that the guy was in the wrong and told me if he kept denying it to get the police involved. As soon as I mentioned police he then admitted he hadn't looked before moving. Then I had the job of phoning Rachel - after which I had a little meltdown, mainly because I felt so bad smashing their car!!! Just before I left the parking space for the second time, the vehicle to my left backed out - one of the boys yelled out "yay that car didn't smash into us". I think I had them a little nervous waiting for another ding. Home again - Rachel thought it was a huge joke! But a pain really as we have to go to the insurance company on Monday and do a report, somehow also I kind of don't trust this guy. I don't know - we are having a really bad run - it seems to have been going on for a few months!! Hopefully this is it!


Friends can come and go out of your life. I had a friend years ago that we just bonded together. We went through thick and thin, our kids grew up together, our husband also became really good friends. Our friendship also survived being in business together for a couple of years. They would just pop in for a visit and we could do the same. Just about every weekend we spent time together at some stage. We had loads of laughs together, also a few tears along the way. Then there seemed to be something not quiet right, Peter and I felt the friendship was getting one sided as they seemed to draw away from us. Nothing actually happened so we were never sure what was wrong. We tried to keep contact but in the end I just gave up. Since then I've wished many times I had called and just asked what was wrong, had we done something? I never and then the time lapsed and that was it. We bang into each other at the odd social function. One time we were seated together at a wedding and talked away all night, but wrong time and place to ask what was wrong. We have now heard their daughter is in hospital, quite sick, diagnosed with an illness that is only going to get worse. Her future looks really grim and she will probably in years to come end up in a wheelchair . I was shocked to hear, I kept thinking about the news during the afternoon. I felt I should do something, but wasn't sure what reaction I would get if I phoned. In the end I phoned their other daughter and just said I was sorry to hear the news about her sister. She was great and we talked for some time. She seemed pleased that I had made contact - but I don't know if I could or should make contact with the old friend. Somehow I think it is way too late. I only wish I had never let it get to this stage.

Still not feeling very motivated. Just a bit flat and I wish I could shake myself out of it. Weigh in yesterday would have shown another gain of 400 grams - not too drastic but this is not what I want! Today I've made up my mind, it's back to tracking, back to trying to increase water intake and exercise - what is that? I have never gone a whole week in almost five years of not doing any exercise - what is wrong with me!!!! The outdoor pool opens next week, just as well as I love aqua outside - so that will get me moving again.

12 comments:

Tracy said...

Maybe you should contat your friend. Just to let her know you are thinking of her. You do not have to become best friends again but just let he know you care & that you re there if she needs to talk. As her daughters illness gets worse she may find a lot of people pull away from her.

Chris H said...

Sorry to hear about your friend's daughter, and the loss of the relationship. No advice cos we are in the same boat with a couple we used to be very close to here. ... and now are not and not sure why? You have inspired me to ring them and touch base, see what's up etc. Hope you can decide what to do or not do.

Julie's Journey said...

The loss of dear friends is never easy - it happens to us all and I know I regret it happening. There are things that you cant fight and someone who doesnt want to keep in contact with you for whatever reason has to be released. It can be a sad time.

Jenny said...

Anne.....I would just phone and say that you had heard about their daughter and was just ringing to say you were thinking of them all at this trying time. Then it's up to her as to how it goes from there.
The car!!!!! Poor you......Your luck must change now for the better. Those boys will no doubt remember this and what happened to Nana for a very long time and what's the bet it gets told at school on Monday...LOL
Big Hugs :)

Lyn said...

Ohhh Anne! What a horrible time you've had. I can really relate to your friendship ordeal. I haven't been able to blog on my blog about what I've been going through lately through fear of 'others' reading my blog.. but ... I've been going through a horrible horrible time lately very similar to what you've talked about on your blog now.

A friend whom I would have called my 'best mate in all the world' suddenly decided she didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. This sent me into a horrible tail spin!! I absolutely HATE someone not liking me and to think I had offended someone was terrible. I went around to her house to ask her if I had done anything wrong and apologised (but for what I didn't know). She replied that she didn't know what I was on about, that there wasn't anything to apologise for. I was flabagasted ... so confused!! Why then didn't she want to talk to me then??? We used to txt eachother 2-3 times a day, coffees every other day ... then NOTHING!! ... I was beside myself, not knowing what to do to fix it. I had to admit there was nothing I could do to fix it. I couldn't think for the life of me what I'd done and even if I had she wouldn't/couldn't take an apology. I had to walk away from the friendship without closure .... very hard to do!!!

Out of the blue a week ago she txt me to ask how my ankle was. I replied politely answering her question having to fight the temptation to 'jump back into her life'. I still don't know what happened, it's all very confusing but I have to put it down to life experience, knowing my 'slate is clean' doing everything I could think of to do.

Sadly sometimes we have to do this and leave it to them to sort in their minds as hard as that is.

Sorry this comment has been so long but thankyou for the opportunity to be able to 'let it out'! *hugs*

Helena said...

ring her, right now she'd be feeling so low and just to know that you still care could make a world of difference.

Glad to hear you and the boys are ok, the not looking when reversing crash is so blimin common, I've seen it happen heaps of times!

Wanna_B_slimmer said...

I think you should contact your old fiend... she possibly really needs you right about now... bummer about your daughters car....

Me said...

I am so glad that you and the children weren't injured - keep an eye out for whip lash problems though.

I would phone your friend - I have been in similar situations in the past and not called and to this day have regretted not making those calls. If after that she still doesn't want anything to do with you - leave it alone because you will know that you have tried and she isn't ready to take up the friendship again.

Lotsa big hugs to you at this really difficult time - take care and be good to yourself !
Me

Rachel said...

There are some fantastic cards out there these days with very appropriate words for almost any occasion, I would send a card and leave it up to her to reply.

Rachel's car - my god girl, your life is a soap opera......LOL. So glad you and the boys were Ok but I did think to myself "if it was going to happen, it was going to happen to Anne".
That guy doesn't sound trustrworthy, watch out.

Tracy said...

You should not have any problems with the insurance. He was reversing so is automatically deemed to be at fault. They should waive the excess etc straight away - don't let them try otherwise.

Karen said...

Just catching up on blogs.... I like Rachel's suggestion of sending a nice card letting her know you are thinking of her and the family... and then leave up to her to contact you.

And OMG to the crash! Hope things are sorted for you quickly...

Lyn said...

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